As someone who is (however misguided) considered a leader in my industry, I need to start holding myself to a higher standard. If I leave myself open to critique I need to learn from the experience. I have struggled over the past day with this concept because I said something on a stage, in front of a couple hundred people, that was inappropriate. Others did the same (and worse) I thought to myself; however, am I not supposed to be a leader in my company and in my community? Yes. Do I want people to judge either based on an off-the-cuff remark made by me alone? No. Would I ever knowingly offend anyone? No.
It is our job as humans to become better people every day of our lives. If I say something that is inappropriate or offense then please, feel free to address it. If I write something you disagree with, please feel free to let me know. If I use incorrect grammar, please point it out so I can correct it. If I can’t take criticism then how am I supposed to ever become a better person?
If someone criticizes me, then please don’t judge them. We all come from different backgrounds. We all have certain buttons that get pressed. I remember living in a fraternity house in college, hearing racial slurs. I feel guilty to this day for not correcting that behavior. Would I still feel guilty if I had corrected the behavior in front of others rather than in front of one? I honestly doubt that I would. Keeping your side of the street clean can be quite a challenge.
It is our job to be as inclusive as possible. Not to alienate or cause anyone to feel uncomfortable. It’s a weird moment when you realize that others have a certain expectation of how you conduct yourself. Don’t try to make excuses. Embrace it. It’s hard, but ultimately rewarding. Thank you all and if you happened to be in the room, again, I apologize.